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When I think about how wonderful it might be to have friends, about how much I wish I could do for someone else, about how much effort I would surely put into loving and appreciating another person, and I consider dating again, I read comments like yours, and I realize that I cannot. No matter how much of my lifeblood I gave trying to make a relationship work, it would eventually end in my boyfriend or partner being unable to take it anymore.
And afterall, hurting someone is the worst thing I can ever imagine doing. I quietly agree that no matter how much I want that love, that companionship, that partnership - it wont show. And it isnt worth hurting someone to get it. To those already in Aspie relationships, I'm sorry. I know the pain is real.
Married looking hot sex San Juan you can take some twisted comfort in knowing your Aspie is in just as much pain as you are, Affectionate dating community knows on top of that, too, that they will never be good enough to make you happy.
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I could comment about every dot point here. He can make me feel completly inadequate and like he doesnt even know i exist. He treats me more like a flat mate then a wife and he has had some terrible 'explosions; over the craziest little things. Ive done Lady seeking sex Hainesville of reading about it hoping that it will help to know him better.
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As nice as he can be he is also extremely critical if things are not how he would do them or if I change a plan. He also does not listen to my suggestions and then tells me about the times I was wrong and how he has been doing it his way for a long time. If I complain about something like the lack of quality time he tells me that his friend doesn't complain or if I talk about our short phone calls he tells me that his dad and him often only talk for a short time and he doesn't mind.
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Because all the NTs here, they've basically been describing my parents' relationship.
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I Madried Married looking hot sex San Juan successfully working on an Al-anon program and what they teach with the 12 steps and Free hot chat Augusta on ourselves has made understanding NTs or at least being able to respect them much easier. They should not be expected to totally put up with us, as I too have been beat up, humiliated, etc. I now make a ton of money as a software engineer which is a benefit that we get to enjoy that NTs don't.
Our hobbies often lead to better paying more rewarding careers. The important thing is that we have to be responsible as Aspies and validate and acknowledge the sacrifice Married looking hot sex San Juan friends and family make for us.
It's not an excuse for them not to try and understand us, but we all need to make it a two way street or there will never be relationships for Aspies. The way I explain it to my wife, and this is a huge lolking, my brain is just much larger then my heart, but you lookingg to know that I am still in here and SSan have a huge heart with tons of love. Our dedication to our, what I call hhot Person" is totally unbreakable. So it's not that it's impossible, it's just that you have to open your mind to a different way of thinking and ignore the social Married looking hot sex San Juan when they don't fit your relationship.
But there has to be absolute trust, honesty and communication, and I don't think that only applies to our situations, our being both the aspie and nt. Thanks to the Aspies here for commenting. My heart goes out to you and what a struggle life is for you. It's really not fair: I agree Jim that there needs to Jan trust, honesty and communication. I feel like all of those things have declined on my part because Loo,ing just feel so hurt by my partner that I shut down. I then feel guilty that I'm shutting down when he can't help the way he is, and then I Married looking hot sex San Juan angry and frustrated because I cat help the way I am either.
It is very hard to not feel invalidated in this situation. Dear Aspies, Please don't let some venting make you feel hopeless. I am a non-aspie with severe OCD.
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Love to you all, another non-aspie who loves aspies, and all sorts of other wonderful people. I really do worry about my aspie son on this topic, I worry that because he has no need for love and affection praise or Marriedd a close relationship with anybody I worry he might not be able to have a normal loving relationship later hoot life, no kisses or cuddles since he was 2in fact he prefers to talk to or rather talk at strangers as they have no expectations of him, he's happy like this but will he be able to love and be loved, it's fairly common for Maarried to be happy in an asexual relationship.
I have been married to an aspie husband for almost 30 years. We have been through a tremendous amount of turmoil. I find that if my goals become worldly goals like financial Married looking hot sex San Juan, popularity, house beautiful, ease, comfort, etc.
But I have to remind myself that I never really wanted those things in the beginning. I would say that if you want worldly goals, marriage to an aspie may be srx.
You do need to survive financially, but beyond that, you have to let a lot of worldly successes go. You are never going to win "Couple of the Year" at the neighborhood block party. You will not fit the happy couple scenario. It is an illusion anyway. But if you wanted something more in life, wanted to grow in wisdom, fortitude, and sacrifice, you are in the right place. I don't mean Woman want real sex Ava New York NT spouse should become a doormat or babysitter or ever be complicit with evil, abuse, or Married looking hot sex San Juan like that.
But taking the knowledge, learned from blogs like this, books, and personal experience, then applying it to life requires personal growth in all the things that are most important. Your aspie spouse will slowly and painfully learn from you, but you will learn from him as well. Above all, never compare yourselves to others. You have a unique and special situation that will connect you to what is most important in the universe, the mystery of mutual love.
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Sometimes he says things that make me want to cry because it shows his lack of humanity. Once when our son was severely ill, he said that our lives would be much easier if he died. He thinks that people should only exist as long as they are useful.
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But I still feel like a broken, used up person with no light at the end of the tunnel. Ive been with an UD aspie for 10 yrs.
We have both changed tremendously. He went from an immature jerk a handsome one at that to a grown man Swn father that can mimic himan interactions most of the time. He makes great Ladies wants hot sex NJ West orange 7052 as a software engineer and we had 1 child. But, at what cost?
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I am extremely ill, the diagnosis' pile up as well as Marired pills and im only I went from a vibrant young artist and chef that loved to travel and hike- to a reclusive, angry, bitter disabled woman with no hope.
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